The truth is, everybody lies. Whether it’s a white harmless lie or big ones to save yourself from trouble, lying is a part of being human. However, there are a lot of people out there who think they can get away with it all the time. They don’t seem to realize that the truth always prevails in the end and not all people can be fooled with acting and flowery words.
If you want to be liar-proof yourself, then watch out for these signs of being a liar so you can catch one:
Liars weave a lot of stories so more often than not; there will be a lot of inconsistencies in what they’re trying to tell you. The key is to listen very carefully to every detail of what they tell you and then call them out when it changes. Look for loopholes and things that are very unlikely to happen to anyone. Also, look out for excuses. The more they tell you, the more they don’t want you finding out the truth.
2. Body Language
Pay close attention to someone who you suspect is lying to you, especially their body language. If that person is lying, they might play with their hair or bite their nails while talking to you because they can feel the anxiety. The most obvious is when they put something between you and them while talking. It could be a plate of food, a bag or simply their arms crossing in front of them tells a lot, it means that they are trying to distance themselves from you subconsciously. Many people can fake the tone of voice and even eye contact but body language is pretty much hard to fake. Other body language to look out for include: rapid blinking, dilated pupils, pitch changes, shrugging shoulders, fidgeting, and crossed arms.
3. Watch out for the Killer Smile
A person’s smile can tell a lot about themselves. A genuine smile is very hard to fake that sometimes even the best actors can’t do it in one take. It takes the entire facial muscle to smile and the eyes must smile as well. If the smile doesn’t seem genuine enough to you, they might be hiding something.
4. Ask Unexpected Questions
Liars usually rehearse their lies before they tell it, especially to a parent or a significant other. So, to catch them off guard, you must think of a question they don’t have the answer to. Like for example, if the liar tells you that the reason they were late was because of some emergency, ask them the normal questions like what happened, who was involved, etc. Make them feel at ease and make them think that they have the conversation under control. Once you think they filled out all the details, ask something very personal or very detailed that they can only answer if all the things they said were actually true. Also, you might want to try suddenly changing the topic. If the person is lying, they will go along with it but if they’re innocent they will question the sudden topic change and might want to go back to it so they can defend themselves.
5. Pay Attention to Verbal Cues
Relying on body language only may be a hit or miss so to be sure, you better learn to observe how they answer questions rather than paying attention to the actual answer. For example, if you think that your partner is having an affair, simply ask them out of the blue: “Are you having an affair?” If they answer with a simple “No, I’m not” there’s a big chance that it’s true. However, if they get angry and defensive and answer you with another question like “How could you ask me that?” instead of just answering the question, then there’s a bigger chance of them lying to you, probably for a very long time.